UPDATE: Sugardaddies and etc.

"All young ladies of spunk and massive intellect sample life with a rich codger-it's a rite of passage." 

-- E. Jean, courtesy of Yeva SB

From SF Sugarbaby's Facebook.  I loved this quote so much I had to borrow it, hope you don't mind ;) 

For those who haven't befriended me on Facebook (I'm a lot more active there), here's a little update on a few men that have courted me in the past few months.

Mr. Coffee Shop:  We met unexpectedly at a local coffee shop (hence the name, très creative I know).  He was on the prowl, I had my head low and blinders on while working on a major project.  He slid into the seat next to me, made a smooth introduction and departed with his card in my hand.  Subsequently, we've met on several occasions. I'm not physically attracted to him but I find our chats engaging.  He could teach me a lot.  Recently I decided I wanted an arrangement with him, I dismissed his advances in the past but I've warmed up.  But alas, time, that fickle creature was not on my side.  He is currently knee deep in family issues and promised to get in touch in the near future.  Which he will, I'm sure.

Luigi:  The man who gifted me an iPhone the first time we met.  I enjoyed spending time with him but there's a language barrier.  After many lunches and dinners that felt like English tutoring lessons my interest waned.  Eventually I stopped returning his calls.  Out of nowhere he contacted me recently requesting a lunch date.  I obliged.  It was more of the same, constantly pausing to restructure his sentences in a way that is familiar to me.  So draining! He insists his English has gotten better, it is me that makes him so tongue tied.  As we were wrapping up our lunch date he requested my presence at dinner later that evening.  I was taken aback.  On one hand I'm flattered by his eagerness but it's a bit much.  A bright red stalker-status flag went up as I politely declined.  He's very aware of my needs, I've been explicit with him on numerous occasions - "if you want to continue to see me, I need some financial assistant."  But I don't think he gets it and probably never will.

Mr. Forbes:  The wealthiest man that has ever pursued me.  Initially, my feelings for him were strong, we have a lot in common and got close quickly.  Over time I came to realize he loved his freedom much more.  He keeps company with a stable of women ready to do as he wishes at the drop of a pin.  Though he has many qualities I admire, he isn't the one for me.  I'm just glad I didn't fuck him.

My work is taking up most of my time but in the upcoming months I'll be attending private parties, volunteering at local fundraisers and actively looking for my next Sugar Daddy.  Happy hunting!

Things I Miss

Hope you all enjoy the new trimmings, felt like I needed a bit of a face lift plus my archives work now :)

Earlier this year I decided to put the sugar lifestyle behind me. Feeling completely jaded after dating the Asshole of the Century (from now on referred to as AC). Peter, as in Peter Pan was my next foray into exclusivity. What a mistake that was.

For all the talk of abandoning the sugar lifestyle I really do miss it. I miss the all expenses paid vacations to exotic five star resorts. I miss the tuna tartar, jewelry for no reason and his visa with my name on it. Beer and fried food is not my idea of a good date.

Is it not possible to be a go-getter career woman and still be embraced by Chanel? My problem last time was garnering the motivation to achieve career success when all my material needs and wants were pacified. I think now my maturity and personal drive has solved that problem.

Towards the conclusion of my last hunt, I fine tuned a strategy for catching sugar daddies. It wasn't intricate, on the contrary, it reigned simplicity. I call it Über-fishing; throwing out as many hooks as possible and seeing what bites. I had an ad on all the Sugar Daddy sites, I was listed in multiple personals (local&national) and I attended as many upscale events as humanly possible. Draining but ultimately, it was craigslist that bit back. Go figure.

Now that I'm re-considering, I took a look at the popular Sugar Daddy sites once more. The mere thought of exchanging countless emails with misrepresented fakes, low ballers and ungracefully aging men gives me chills. Based on my previous experiences, I think much success (and peace of mind) is to be had by freestyling. This way you can completely eliminate the email tag and gauge his sugar-providing ability once his business card is in hand. You've just got to know where to look and show up in all your fab-ness.

I have a gift that benefits me quite well, I've mastered the art of active listening. During initial conversations I listen most carefully. This enables me to pick up hints as to what he desires most. Based on his history with other women and his own admissions I can become exactly what he wants. I can also read his non verbal cues and cater my every word and action to elicit a favorable response from him. This I do automatically now, with all men.

It's proven to be an invaluable skill. On the other hand, I'm unsure of the long term implications of this sort of manipulative behavior in the context of a healthy relationship. Wouldn't it mean I'm molding myself to another's image of the perfect lover rather than being myself? That I put my own needs second to his in order to get him to open his heart and his wallet? Food for thought I suppose... I think what I've missed most is sharing my thoughts with you all.